My Natural Curly Hair Regimen – How to Love Your Gorgeous Curls

My Natural Curly Hair Regimen - How to Have Gorgeous Curls Naturally

I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with my curls. As a child, my mom and I fought and wrestled them, trying to tame my ridiculously thick, wiry locks with not much luck. Mom has fine, wavy hair so she was at a loss as to how to care for my locks, especially back in the eighties and nineties when people didn’t understand that curly hair has to be treated differently than straight hair. It wasn’t until I was in ninth grade and went to Great Clips for a regular haircut that the stylist told me my hair felt like straw and just needed to be moisturized. Then, things started to turn around! No longer did I fight my curls, but learned how to care for them and accept them as a beautiful part of myself, and not a deformity!

So, after 30 years of experimentation, trial and error, pain, tears, and eventually compliments and smiles, I have finally figured out how to keep my locks happy. My true curly hair awakening started with the book, Curly Girl: The Handbook by Lorraine Massey (where to buy).

This is a must-have for any curly girl. It teaches you about your curls so you can learn how to care for them, including all-natural homemade products.

My Natural Curly Hair Regimen - How to Have Gorgeous Curls NaturallyChoose a Stylist Who Specializes in Curly Hair (Deva Trained)

I was always jealous of my straight haired friends’ – how they’d go to the salon and leave with gleaming, shiny hair that’s perfectly coiffed. Whenever I’d leave the salon, I looked like a lion who’d gotten in a fight with a hair dryer and it was obvious who’d won. I just got used to going straight home after the salon, washing out all the yucky, sticky products and redoing it myself, only to be disappointed again when it dried as it stuck out like a triangle.

Once I was in my twenties, I came across a Canadian stylist who specialized in curly hair, and for the first time in my life, I left the salon actually liking the way my hair felt and looked. She had a patent for her “C cut” where she cut curly hair curl by curl along the C of the curl. Gone was the triangle effect, a.k.a. Mount Everest, and my hair really started looking beautiful.

Once you understand how your curls work, the next step is to find a stylist who understands curls. In my experience, all hair stylists say they know how to cut curly hair, and 99% of them don’t. I don’t wanna offend anyone, but it’s just a fact. Hair stylists who understand curls DO NOT cut them the same way they cut straight hair, for instance, my hair is cut dry since it is a totally different length when wet.

I found an awesome salon from naturallycurly.com in my area (Salon Bliss) and the stylists are all Deva trained, which I’ve found to be the best training program out there for curly hair. Use the Deva salon finder to find a stylist near you!

Questions to ask the salon to see if they are truly trained on how to cut curls: (taken from http://www.mydevacurl.com/curly_stylist_finder)

  1. Is the stylist skilled at cutting curly hair?
  2. Does the stylist cut curly hair while it’s dry?
  3. Will the stylist see me for a consultation before a curly cut?
  4. Does the salon offer hooded dryers and diffusers as an alternative to blow drying wet hair?
  5. What products does the salon use?

 

Use Gentle, Sulfate-Free Shampoo and Moisturizing Conditioner

Deva products are specially designed for curly hair, and almost all are mostly poo-free (no harsh synthetic detergents, or sulfates). I have used their products for years, including the DevaCurl No-Poo, and DevaCare Conditioner. That is until I started creating my own shampoo and conditioner from baking soda and apple cider vinegar (see my post on how to do it)! This has been the best thing I’ve ever done for my hair. My curls have never been happier – they are now truly healthy from the inside out. UPDATE – 2012 – I now go back and forth between using aloe vera/glycerine shampoo and nothing as a conditioner, and using Dr. Bronner’s Castile Soap to wash, and apple cider vinegar to condition. My hair started to get very dry after a year of using baking soda, but it was perfect to transition off of shampoo.

More Tips and Tricks

Here are more things in my curly hair routine that have made a big difference in the health and beauty of my hair.

  • I have a $35 Culligan shower head filter (where to buy) to soften the water. This has made a huge difference in my skin and hair because we have very hard water, and the ]filter is only $11 (where to buy) and has to be changed every 6 months. Pretty cheap!
  • I wash my hair every 3-4 days. In between washings, I spray my hair with filtered water mixed with 10-15 drops of Lavender for scent to freshen up the curls and reduce the frizz, then do a little finger combing. I never ever comb my hair dry – a big no no for curly hair!
  • Then, and most importantly, I do not towel dry my hair.  My DevaCurl-trained hairdresser taught me this. Right after I get out of the shower, I flip my head upside down and I take my TIGI Catwalk Curls Rock gel and scrunch it into my soaking wet hair.(This is NOT organic or natural. I have tried homemade flax seed gel, oils, aloe vera and many other natural things and all leave my hair frizzy and matted. I love being natural, but haven’t found a decent alternative that works for my hair yet.) This way, the gel can lock in the water, ensuring that my hair holds in the moisture. Then, I take an old t-shirt and scrunch the water out, then air dry. If I have to go somewhere, I will blow dry my hair with a diffuser, but only until damp, not completely dry.
  • Another idea for an all-natural hair gel that one of my readers suggested is to use Aloe Vera Gel, which you can buy organic and raw, so it is a chemical-free, safe option.
  • I also take Fish Oil (where to buy) and Fermented Cod Liver Fish Oil on a daily basis, and regularly drink herbal tea with gelatin (where to buy) in it, all of which helps with numerous things like my heart, cholesterol, and digestion, but also improves the condition of my skin and hair.

Check out my other posts on taking care of your hair naturally

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About Sara McFall

Sara is the owner and founder of My Merry Messy Life, which started in 2011 as a way to chronicle her journey to a natural, chemical-free lifestyle and to share her passions of mothering, real food, homeschooling and crochet. She is a mama to three precious and energetic little boys and wife to a university professor who loves to sing, dance ballet and ballroom, and live simply and naturally.

Comments

  1. This is a great post with great information. I have crazy curly hair with a mind of it’s own sometimes. I added your button to my links page!

  2. Curly haired girls unite!!! 🙂

    Thanks for this wonderful information! Gonna share it with my sister. We both have some crazy curls! 🙂

  3. This book has changed my life! When I was a kids I was made fun of because of my horrible hair. Like you my mom didn’t know how to deal with it. It makes me feel good that I’m teaching my daughter to love her curls!
    New follower from Musings of an Imperfect Mom

  4. Love this. I wish I had curly hair. I have a link party, and I would love it if you would link this post. It is called Wednesdays Adorned From Above Link Party. You can find it at

    http://www.adornedfromabove.com/2012/08/natural-translucent-face-powder-update.html

    I hope to see you there. Have a great Day.
    Debi Bolocofsky
    Adorned From Above
    http://www.adornedfromabove.com

  5. Instead of hair gel, I’ve been using 100% aloe vera gel for years! The hairdressers always seem a bit surprised when I mention this but my curls are defined and I like that it’s less likely to get that awful crunchy feeling I always hated with gel…bonus, I do believe it’s moisturizing.

    The no-poo (sodium laureth) is definitely the way to go for curly hair. Interesting post!

    • Thanks so much for sharing! That’s a great tip. I’ll have to add it to this post. Aloe Vera Gel is very moisturizing and a great idea to use as a gel all by itself.

    • I tend to mix in a little bit of hair serum or cream (silicone-free) with the aloe vera gel, 3 pumps of aloe gel for one pump of serum or cream. Maybe mixing some of your natural hair cream with aloe vera gel would make a nice moisturizing gel. I’ll try and give the hair cream recipe a try…but first, I’m working on the natural cleaning products. Thanks for the recipes! Interesting blog!

    • Another great idea! Thanks for sharing.

  6. Thank you for sharing all these great tips with us!

    My main issue with my curly hair is what do with it at night. When I wake up, it’s a big mess and my curls are mostly gone. I’ve tried putting it into a braid and it helps a little but it still doesn’t look good. Any tips?

    • Hi Amel! Thanks for visiting. Now that my hair is so healthy from using these homemade products, I can wash my hair at night and when I wake up in the morning, I just spray it with some lavender infused water (the lavender isn’t necessary – just smells nice!) and fluff it up with my fingers (never brush or comb it dry – in fact, I never use a comb anymore. I finger comb my hair in the shower while its wet). But, my hair never loses its curl, it justs gets a little squished at night. When are you washing your hair – at night? It might help to wash it in the morning, then you don’t sleep on it and mash it up :).

    • Thank you for the the fast reply :).

      Yeah I wash my hair at night because I get up at 6am to go to work so I don’t really have time to do it in the morning. Especially because it takes a long time to dry and I try not to use a hairdryer as much as possible.

      I’ve tried your baking soda and ACV regimen for the first time today and I’m really impressed with the results so I’m gonna keep doing it and I’ll hopefully see some improvement soon :).

    • Sure! You’re welcome. Oh great, hope it’ll work out for you. It takes patience, but it’s totally worth it, I promise! It’s so ridiculously cheap and works very well.

  7. You have some great info here! My hair isn’t quite as curly as yours. It’s more loose, bigger curls past my shoulders and extremely thick. I found a DIY baking soda/ ACV rinse on pinterest that I decided to try. THis is my second week and My hair feels dry, sort of like straw, and tangles extremely easily. I’ve read on some other sites that it is because I have used too much baking soda.This is my first time doing a no-poo so I have no idea what I’m doing! Here’s the recipe:
    Baking soda cleanser: 1 quart of boiling water, 1/4 cup: apply liberally to head!
    ACV rinse: ¾ c distilled water, ¼ c apple cider vinegar, 2 T aloe vera gel, 1 T honey, 8 drops of peppermint oil, and 8 drops of tea tree oil.
    I really want to try this no poo out but it just is’nt working out too well!
    Sorry for the whole book of a post! Thanks!

    • Hi Sadye! That’s funny you write about the baking soda shampoo and ACV conditioner because I wrote about that, too, and it is by far my most popular post! I have a very easy and simple recipe that’s just baking soda and water, and ACV and water. My hair is completely happy with it! You’re brave to try it for the first time, so you’re doing great! Yes, I would also suggest to reduce the amount of baking soda in your shampoo and increase the ratio of ACV in your conditioner. Each person’s hair is so different, so it will take a bit of experimenting for you to get just the right concoction for your hair.

  8. You’re comment about going straight home after getting your hair cut to re-wash and figure out how to re-style it cracked me up! I used to do the same exact thing! I also agree that 99% of stylists have no clue what to do with curly hair. Unfortunately, where I live, there aren’t any stylists that specialize in curly hair (at least that I know of ). I am a huge fan of Ouidad products though. I always tell my hair stylist friend that I will pay for her to get Ouidad certfied :)!

  9. Ginger Hutchison says:

    I have very very kinky curly wavy hair. It does it all!! I had a hair stylist recommend the aloe vera gel for my hair back when I was pregnant (16 years ago). I’ve used it ever since. I love it. You can even add a drop or two of vitamin e oil to it to make your hair shinier.

  10. I have a question…I have curly hair that is turning gray! I started using Surya Brasil Henna Cream to cover it, would the baking soda hair wash strip the color out? I figured I’d ask before I try it!

    • Hi Claire…shhhh….I have a secret! I’m only in my early thirties and have grey hair coming in myself. I use Herbatint to color my hair and it doesn’t fade one bit with this method. Baking soda is so gentle – it does not remove or strip color. The ACV, I’ve heard, can slightly alter blonde hair color, so you might be careful with blonde hair.

      • Thank you for your advice Sara! I’m going to give it a try! I started going gray in my 30’s and now I’m 45 and have to color it, and with the curls and the gray it looks frizzy and now it’s even thinning! So time to try a natural & gentler regimen, I’ll post my results. I tried the ACV rinse for the first time this morning… I did smell it for a few hours, but by the middle of the day the smell was gone!

        • Hi Claire! Hey, thought I’d share my experience with you. I just turned 50 three weeks ago. The last couple of yrs I’ve noticed thinning. I was also very stressed, but it kept going and got worse. I was very upset. I started taking a tbs. of silica (liquid) everyday. About once a week I put olive oil mixed with a little tea tree oil on my hair and cover with a shower cap and very warm towel. The real difference came when I start taking a nutritional drink with a 21 servings of antioxidents a day. Strange bc I’m a nutrition freak and eat awesome already. I was so impressed that I became a distibutor! I personally know of three other people that have been able to grow their hair longer now after taking this product. I look a lot younger than I am and have always been known for my hair so this was super upsetting for me! Anyway, here’s my personal email if you want any more info. Not sure about product posting rules here. sdroberts63@yahoo.com

  11. Sara, great post! Quick question: I’ve tried the Baking Soda shampoo/ ACV conditioner method before, but chickened out less than a week in due to looking like Medusa, ha! Since then, I’ve moved to a different area where the water is not nearly as hard, so I’m about to try it again…However, when I last attempted this, I was using the shampoo and conditioner every day. My hair sounds similar to yours; would you recommend washing only every 3-4 days, even in the beginning? If this ends up working, it’ll be worth it in the long run, even if I have to endure looking like Medusa for a month! 🙂

    • Sara, I just thought of one more question to ask: I work as a lifeguard, and I am also an avid swimmer. When I swim, I’m able to save my hair from the chlorine for the most part by and wetting it in the shower beforehand, maybe rubbing in some coconut oil, and then sealing it up in a swim cap. However, as part of my job, we have to perform surprise lifesaving drills at least once a week, which means I have to jump in and perform a mock rescue with no prior warning or time to put on a swim cap, so my hair is due to get saturated with chlorine at least once a week…do you have any idea or advice as to whether the BS/ACV method will even be worth it with this weekly exposure to the chlorine? Thanks for your time!

      • Hi Lisa! I’m sorry for the delayed response – I’ve been on maternity leave. I used to take aqua swim classes at the gym and the water would always get into my hair. I found that I had no problems if I used apple cider vinegar to rinse out my hair right after getting out of the pool, then wash it with baking soda and then did apple cider vinegar again. Another thing I would do is to coat my hair with coconut oil to protect it from the water. So, yes, I think this method still works even with chlorine!

    • I would recommend washing your hair more often at the beginning, but truly, there’s no right or wrong way to do it. So, I think you should do what will work best for you and your hair. I’d hate for you to look like Medusa, too! 🙂

      • Hi again Sara,
        Thank you for the very helpful reply! Right now I’m on Day 17 of no-poo using the BS/ACV method, and (knock on wood) Medusa has not come close to making an appearance yet, yay! I’ve also been using Fruit of the Earth Aloe Vera gel with good results. I’m no Pantene model, but my hair is actually starting to come out of the greasy phase and look good again – and it feels great! Not having hard water in this area, along with taking your advice about using lukewarm to cool water in the shower, rather than warm or hot water has made a HUGE difference from the last time I tried to do this. Thanks again!

  12. I, too, discovered the Deva method almost 2 years ago, and no longer hate my curly hair!

    I do wonder though, is there an odor withe the DIY conditioner? I’d love to try it, but I’m afraid my hair will smell like vinegar.

    Thanks Sara!

    • Hi Brooke! I only have a problem with the vinegar smell if I add too much vinegar to the water, so it takes some experimenting to see how much your hair will tolerate. I’d start with the recipe – 1 tablespoon per cup of water and then if you need more (if you notice your hair is a little dry), then add more. Add more until the smell bothers you! 🙂

  13. What is the reason for drying your hair with a t-shirt instead of a towel??

    • That’s what they teach in the DEVA method. Terry towels are very fuzzy and those fibers supposedly ruff up the cuticle of the hair, causing it to frizz. By using jersey cotton, like t-shirt, the fibers are smooth and won’t cause frizziness. I notice a big difference when I use an old t-shirt.

  14. Not trying to be critical here but Tigi Catwalk is full of non-natural ingredients, and has a hazard score (depending on the product) of between 5 and 8 on Skindeep. Also, it has ‘cones, which is a CG Method no-no (not even sure that you’re CG). Have you tried home-made flax seed gel? I think you’d love it. I make my own – it’s easy and very quick to make. You can find a bunch of recipes via Google but I use this recipe: http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/recipes-%97-hair-body/61208-no-fail-flax-seed-gel-i-finally-did-twice.html I add my own extras to the basic recipe and, even then, it takes me about 15 minutes every few weeks to do it. I love it.

    Love your blog, too!!

    • Hi Nancy! You’re absolutely right – my hair gel is not good. I’ve yet to be able to give up my non-natural hair gel because it has worked so well for me for years. I’ve tried several natural gels and made some of my own, only to end up with a huge frizzy mess. I draw the line at ugly hair -just makes me a person no one would want to be around :). So, I have just recently made flax seed hair gel and loved it for the first week. Then, it started to build up on my hair and made it so matted and tangly that it was unmanageable. However, I have another idea using flax seeds that I think might really work. Gonna try it today and post about it soon.

      • Have you tried okra gel? I use one that a fellow curly girl makes and sells on Etsy ($$$ though) and I really like it. I have yet to make my own though only because okra’s a bit tough to find and I am happy with my own flax seed gel.

        Would love to hear how your flax seed idea went.

        • Okra gel, no! How cool! I bet it works well because when it’s cooked, it gets all gell-like and gooky. My flax seed hair gel worked wonderfully for a week, then started to build up on my hair and made it so tangly and matted I had to stop. Once I stopped using it, my hair felt so much better. So, I’m working on a recipe that uses some flax seed hair gel and other ingredients to add softness.

  15. Fran Marie says:

    I was very disappointed in Deva Curl No Poo and conditioner. It smells fabulous but I didn’t see the difference in my hair.

    My hair is coarse and frizzy, as well.

  16. Shannon C. says:

    Hi and thanks SO much for this info! I’d love to see your flax recipe once you get it worked out. I’m trying the Baking Soda/ACV wash for the first time tonight, then going to try some aloe gel fresh from my aloe plant – just because that’s all I have right now. Fortunately I’m a teacher so I’m off of work for another month… I’m hoping to get this natural curly hair regimen thing sorted out before going back to school so that I can stay homemade and natural!

    I’ve been on Aubrey brand shampoo and conditioner for a few years, LOVE what it does to my hair, HATE what it does to my scalp. I’ve dealt with it for years just because for once I don’t have to use product on my hair after shampooing and conditioning it, and combing through it with a wide tooth comb while conditioner still in it, then rinsing. BUT, gonna try this method and see how it works. I’ll post an update in a week or two! And don’t forget to share that flax gel once you get it all sorted out. 🙂

    Thanks!

  17. So now that Curls Rock has been discontinued, what do you use in its place? Curlesque was the replacement, but that too is now being discontinued..ugh. would love to know what you’re using presently. Thanks

  18. Thanks for the post! I’ve been using coconut oil instead of hair gel for a week or so, and my hair isn’t quite as defined as with gel, but it does a good job of holding the curl. And we’re in the middle of a drizzly Seattle winter here, so anything that’s not a frizzy mess is a good thing! I’m curious to try aloe very and flaxseed gels, though!

  19. I am loving the baking soda/ACV rinse…….my hair is curly but not as much as yours! :)….the longer it gets,the curlier, but it is short not…..anyway, when and how do you use the aloe vera? I just bought some……..

  20. I have a large head, and unless they are big boy T-shirts the don’t work. So I went to the fabric store and bought the ugliest t shirt material they had for a dollar a yard and made two hair towels for myself….love them.
    I have been poo free for nearly three years now, nearing 50 and my hair has never been prettier. I use a VERY cheap conditioner that starts with a v and ends with a 5.
    I use the baking soda and acv rinse at least once a week. I take a tall plastic glass and add a tablespoon or more(ish) of baking soda. I wet my hair and gently poor this onto my scalp and scrub. Rinse, and then add a glub of vinegar to the same glass and rinse, the thoroughly rinse with water. I then take a small amount of the cheap cream rinse and put on my ends, and leave it in. As a leave in conditioner.
    I even use this entire method on my long haired chihuahua, lol.
    Coconut oil as a deep treatment, and is awesome for feet and elbows, and the dog loves it too!

  21. Hi Sara!
    Love Love Love you suggestions for taking care of curls. Wanted to also share a product that I use to tame my curls. It’s from my friends at Ava Anderson Non-Toxic: the styling cream. Not cheap (like $18), but it does last a while – at least 6 months. I add my favorite essential oils to it for additional fragrance. (Elevation by doTerra is my absolute fav). Not sure if you’ve ever used any Ava stuff, but just wanted to offer the suggestion! I will send your info to my friend who is a consultant and see if she can send you a demo 🙂

  22. 18 months ago I was introduced to a brand of curly hair products that has forever changed my relationship with my curly hair. I kept it really long to pull the curl straighter and lived in a ponytail almost full time. They cut my hair shoulder length and taught me how to not just manage but love my curls. It’s called Mop Top! Created by a woman in Dallas who realized her middle daughter had her spiral curly hair (in an effort to prevent her from being bullied)! My stylist locally is Deva trained and does an amazing job but I found that the Deva product didn’t hold a candle to the the regimen I used already! I stop people on the street and give them the website all the time. !!! moptophair.com !!! Take the curly quiz, customize the product line to suit your hair type! Learn to love your curls! It’s been the only thing that has ever made me love mine!!!

  23. Well I thought I was looking at me. Your hair is exactly the color , length and curl style mine is. So happy to know that there are others with my kind of hair.
    I to fought for years to control my curls.. and if you think thats bad I moved to Florida from Missouri and then the curls went “ape sh**!” pardon the language 🙂 I have fussed and fussed with my hair doing the same things you did but I’m 46 now. Most of last year with the intense humidity here I had to keep it in a hat.. because I to looked like a lion in fact my granddaughter told me that. LOL
    I am at this point trying the gelatin hair gel after using nexus because I’m tired of the expense and its not doing that much good. Its frustrating to every time I go to a salon and I’ve tried it all as well, they want to sell there products telling me it will help and I know it does not and I flat out tell them because I know my hair best. So with that I am going to try the no poo shampoo again and stick with it this time. I had to let go of wanting my hair to be soft and shiny and straight but once i just decided to embrace my curls I felt kinda liberated..yes the weight is off my shoulders of wanting something that is not to be and I’m ok with that. Us curly heads are gonna be alright. 🙂

    • Hi curly sista! Oh I do hope the no-poo works well for you. I go back and forth between baking soda and aloe vera as shampoo. Baking soda is great for clarifying, but aloe vera’s better when your hair is dry. Hope you can find a DEVA hairdresser in your area, or at least one who will cut your hair dry. That is the key!

  24. I absolutely love your post and all your advices. Thank you very much for taking the time to do this and to help all your fellow curly heads around ;). I used to be super curly in my 30s (more than you) but now in my 40’s my hair is getting super thin and I’m losing a lot. I don’t have the same volume and my biggest problem is how entangled it gets. I use my hair very long half way thru my back. I lose so much hair every time I have to untangle it (2 times per week when I wash it). I use coconut oil as curling product and moisturizer but still it gets horrible entangled no matter what I do. I’m afraid that If I move to no-poo I’m not going to be able to comb it thru and I will end losing even more hair. So far only super rich in chemicals products, like Pantene, are the only ones making my hair silky enough during the conditioner to be able it to comb it thru. Any words of wisdom???

    • You are the perfect candidate for no-poo, actually! 🙂 Know why? Because you’re losing hair. Your scalp is sensitive to all the chemicals in the shampoo and conditioner you’re using. If you’re not ready to make the full leap, you could buy the DEVA Curl No-Poo or Low-Poo products. Still have chemicals in them, but they are less than Pantene. I have countless testimonials on my baking soda shampoo post about how ladies with thinning hair saw their hair thicken up and grow back using baking soda shampoo and apple cider vinegar conditioner. And I use a wide toothed comb to brush my hair in the shower, with the apple cider vinegar in it. Works very well!

  25. Hi Sara, Thank you for all these suggestions! I have hair very similar to yours. For about a year I had been using Dr. B baby mild on my hair and for some reason there has never been an end to the gunk and buildup. When I run my hand through my hair it would always feel waxy. I use a pick to detangle right before my shower (I know, I know- not good- but I don’t think i would be able to finger comb in the shower if I didn’t comb it out before!!) After I came across your site, I started using the BS wash with ACV rinse. I’ve been doing that for at least 12 weeks. I certainly cannot finger comb with the ACV- are you successful with that? It’s hard to tell if it’s working. I still have “gunk” coming off on the pick, but it’s hard for me to believe that I would still be in the transition period especially since I used Dr. B for a year. I also took your suggestion of getting a filter for the shower head- thank you! My hair is naturally curly a little past my shoulders, pretty thick, course and not really frizzy, but curls certainly not defined. I need to figure out what product to use for defining curls as well (haven’t been doing anything except putting my hair in a ponytail : ( Just the other day, I had my first dry cut! I had not cut my hair in a really long time so of course the curls were being weighed down. The transformation was remarkable (though I think she put in 3 different deva curl products : ) It was great to see my curls once again! I appreciated any thoughts you can share! Thank you!

  26. Thank you thank you thank you! My hair is JUST like yours, and nobody understands it. Been having the darndest time figuring out how to tame my frizz and ease the dryness, this helps a lot. Thank you!
    Now to find someone who knows how to cut it…

  27. Hello, love the ideas for shampoos and conditioners here! My curls are very similar to yours. This winter was a beast on my hair and while i know cold water is best, I just can’t get myself to take a cold shower in the winter. But now with summer around the corner and the humid air of North Carolina, my hair might stand a chance (i know it’s weird i like humidity but after growing up in the dryness of Arizona my hair loves it so long as i have a good mousse!). I use a mousse everyday i go out in public and i find if i don’t wash and condition everyday it gets oily and gross (i can go maybe 2 days but not more). And if i workout i definitely have to wash it or my head starts to itch the next day. I try to workout 5 days a week. I haven’t heard any curly blogs mention dealing with head sweat and infrequent hair washing. Do they just not workout? Or does the no poo method not cause issues with working out? I find if i put product (i lovingly hatefully call it hair crap) in my hair then in a ponytail to workout, there’s no saving it without a wash. And with the no wash concept, does it not get frizzy from just spray from the shower or stream if it’s a hot shower?

    • When I workout, I do wash my hair more often, especially if I’ve been sweating. And I agree, the curls will NOT be purdy after a workout! I think you have to experiment and find out what work best for your hair, as it’s probably different from others. But I use castile soap and apple cider vinegar, and will use a natural conditioner if my hair gets dry, so the cleansing process is gentle and doesn’t strip my hair.

  28. Hi Sarah!

    Hello fellow natural curly gurl!! so i have longish, curly, previously color treated hair. My hair is dry, my scalp Ioves it some build up and I’m in Alaska. Its cold and dry here. ick. Recently (last 6 months) I ditched all my chemically laden products in favor of one line. Shea Moisture. Love it. I do a oil massage every few days or so (sometimes over night sometimes just before I shower). I wash only my scalp and condition the ends, comb my hair with conditioner in it. I reapply a tiny between pea and dime sized amount of the conditioner back in the ends before I do the t-shirt plopping thing. I love this because I don’t have to do anything with my hair after. I flip it a bit, scrunch, diffuse if its cold outside and go.
    I’ve been playing with EO’s in my body butters, cleansers etc and what i’ve found is that I need the moisture of avocado oil but it clogs my pores. Coconut oil and I just do not get along (dries me out even diluted in small amounts). I seem to be having some success with castile soap and I’m looking for something to use between hair washing, something to reduce itching and scalp build up over time. I was thinking maybe mixing some baking soda with castile soap, veg glycerin, acv etc into one product… throw in some oils and possibly some honey? Or maybe two… one to cleanse (scrubbing bubbles) and one to maintain moisture and reset curls.

    Till then Shea Moisture is an amazing, natural, product line. Oh as is African Black soap. Its too drying for me to use regularly but my kids use it all the time with amazing results.

    Any thoughts, advice, wisdom would be exceptionally helpful.
    Thank you,
    Cassie 🙂

    • Hi Cassie! Love that you live in Alaska! I wash my hair with castile soap – check out that post here. For the buildup and itchiness, I use Young Living’s Melaleuca (tea tree oil) and rosemary on my scalp. I drop it into my shampoo. It has worked VERY well for itchiness for me!

  29. Jane Merkley says:

    I have curly hair and Coconut oil defines my curls while keeping down the frizz and won’t dry out/make crunchy of the curles. (It us natural and super healthy for hair and skin)

  30. Super informative post! Unfortunately, during my hair selection, nature wasn’t feeling generous because the closest Ill ever get to having curly hair, is a gnarly perm I begged for, and got, when I was really young.
    My 3yr old daughter DOES have curls though. I’ve tried many products in a very limited range of what I consider “worthy” of her hair. I just wonder, is this ok to use on her?

  31. Wondering if you’ve ever tried this product? It is seriously a DREAM for my unruly curls. I used to use gel, but couldn’t stand the ‘crunch’ effect. Off to try your baking soda and vinegar trick right now! Thanks for the post

    https://www.amazon.com/Curls-Cream-Brule-8-Ounce/dp/B0038OEELG

  32. Hello!!! Thanks a lot for your info. I have a years old daughter, who has curly hair, but I do not know how to do her hair to go to school, I cant just leave it without doing anything because I am afraid of her getting lice. Please a few tips to help with that. Also can I use the baking soda shampoo and acv conditioner??. I am afraid to damage her hair, as I am doing it every day when doing her hair in the morning.

    • Hi Patty! I wouldn’t wash her hair every day – curly hair is very dry and should be washed only several times a week. I haven’t been as happy with the baking soda shampoo and quit using it. I like to use DeVa Curl’s No Poo and also Young Living Essential Oil’s Copiaba Lime Shampoos and Conditioners. So, instead of washing it daily, you could rinse it and apply some conditioner to make sure there are no bugs in her hair. You can also use essential oils like tea tree, lemon, and Young Living’s Purification oil in her hair to keep critters away.

  33. I meant 5 years old daughter

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