Affirmations have been a powerful tool for me to be a more emotionally balanced mom and person. They have drastically helped to reduce the lies and anxious thoughts by replacing them with truth. Here are my top affirmations for moms!
Do Affirmations Really Work?
I've been doing them for years and I have found that they work for me! Our brains are hard-wired for survival. That is it's job – to keep us alive and to survive. Not to THRIVE, but survive.
So we have to train our brains to think positively and to believe the best about ourselves and the world around us. We naturally remember the worst and most awful things from our lives, from movies, from the news and more. Why? Because our brains want us to remember the bad to keep us safe from experiencing the bad. So we have to train our brains to remember the good and to know that there is actually more good than bad in our world and in people.
Affirmations as Prayer or Declarations
When you first start saying and listening to affirmations, it can feel really weird. You may be thinking that some of them like, “I am beautiful” are a total joke for you because you don't feel beautiful at all!
Well, that's okay, they can still work for you. Remember, we are using affirmations to retrain our brains to believe the best about ourselves, other people and the world around us. We are not used to focusing on the good in our lives or believing that things can be good for us.
So for some of the statements, they will be more of a prayer for you, stating that this is how would you like to think or fell. It's speaking what we want and declaring to become a reality in our lives.
For instance, you may not feel you have a supportive community of friends or a supportive spouse. You may not have a spouse at all but are wanting a supportive one! So speak it as an affirmation over and over and you will train your brain to believe you are worth having a supportive community and your subconscious mind will go to work to make it happen. Believe me, it's been working for me for several years now!
Our Brains are Hard Wired for Survival, Not to Thrive
Back in our cave man days, these survival, instinctual thoughts were necessary to save us from lions, and tigers and bears. There was a lot more real danger back then. But in today's times, most of what surrounds us is perceived danger.
For instance, you're going out to dinner with your mom friends and they all want to eat Italian. You've been super excited about the new Mexican restaurant in town, but you are afraid to tell your friends that you'd really rather go eat Mexican, but your brain wants to keep you safe so you feel it isn't safe to speak your opinion because your brain believes that your friends might get mad at you and stop being your friend. It sounds so silly when we get it out there in the open like that, doesn't it? Like we are still in second grade. Intellectually we know that they are terrible friends if they won't be friends with you anymore over a restaurant choice. Ha! But in our thoughts and emotions, we believe this to be true as our brains try to keep us safe!
It Is Our Job to Tell Our Brains How to Think, Otherwise We Stay Stuck
We Must Proactively Fill Our Minds with Truth
We are in charge of telling our brains which thoughts to think and it is OUR job to proactively fill our minds with truth. To tell your brain (maybe even give it a name LOL!) – “Sara, thank you for trying to keep me safe, but right now I am safe. It is safe for me to tell my friends what I really want.”
Your actions will be begin to change because your mindset has changed – you'll start to notice that there is a local moms bible study you can join, or a local moms club. You'll be more likely to start up a conversation at the park with another mom because your brain has been turned ON to find and make new friends. It's how our brains work!!
Next thing you know, you've got a group of supportive, loving friends. It can seem like magic, or like God answered your prayer. But really, you're just telling your brain what to believe and think, and then your subconscious mind goes to work to make it happen. In a way, it IS how God answers prayer! He get us to take the action.
This can apply to any and every area of your life! If you want things to change, start flooding your mind with the truth in that area.
“I Am” Statements
Anything that follows the words, “I am” are very powerful! Be mindful of what you say after those words because they are training your brain to believe that as truth about yourself. For instance, saying “I am fat” is training your brain to believe this is the truth of who you are. You may be in fact, overweight, however, your true nature is to be healthy. So instead of allowing yourself to believe that your body is broken and wrong, flood it with the truth like,
“My body was created to be healthy and is capable of healing itself. I am on the journey of healing my body and mind. I am listening to what is healthy for my body to eat and how to stay physically active in a way that works best for me.”
Can you feel how much more powerful that statement is? You are teaching your brain and your subconscious how to go about helping you to lose the weight and get healthy for LIFE. Not just some temporary diet or fad exercise program, but a mindset and lifestyle change that will serve you for the rest of your life.
So use “I am” statements very wisely!
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How to Use These Affirmations
- Download my Mindful Mamas affirmations book below and print it out. Put up the affirmations in a place where you can see it daily
- Write down the ones that really resonate with you and stick them to your bathroom mirror or anyplace you'll see it daily.
- Read them out loud morning and night – this adds even more power to them!
- Record them on your phone and listen to it morning and night – super easy to do while you're getting ready in the morning or driving!
- Download my Mindful Mamas Affirmations for Moms and Kids Album and listen to them daily to see your mindset, beliefs and behaviors change!
Affirmations for Raising Kids
- I am unconditionally loving, patient and respectful with my kids.
- I am grateful for the wisdom and insight that always comes when I need it.
- My intuition is my most valuable source in guiding my children and the more I tune into it, the louder and more clear it becomes.
- I am patient because I hear my children's hearts and know their good intentions.
- I am knowing how to emotionally support my children as I know more how to emotionally support myself.
- I am quick to forgive myself when I make mistakes with my kids.
- I am the right person to parent my children and comparing myself to other mothers steals my peace and joy.
Affirmations for Community and Friends
- I am grateful for a supportive community that helps me to raise my children.
- I am grateful for a supportive spouse who loves me unconditionally.
- I am a patient, loving and caring wife.
- I am grateful for supportive friends who love me just the way I am.
I am grateful my children have supportive, caring friends.
- I am loving how easy it is for me to make friends and the right ones for me come into my life easily and effortlessly.
Affirmations for Self Worth and Value
- I am beautiful because I choose to see myself as beautiful.
- There is nothing I have to do, be or have to be more worthy. I was born worthy and loved.I am allowing opportunities into my life that support me and are part of my purpose.
- My confidence comes from knowing that I am worthy and loved unconditionally.
- I am diligent about filling my mind with truth daily so my mind is renewed and empowered.
- I am wise to put my emotional and spiritual needs before that of my children.
- I am knowing that it is not my husband's job to make me feel beautiful and loved – it is my job to believe that for myself.
- It is safe to be fully myself, the way that God created me to be.
- I am knowing that my true nature is kind, compassionate, and loving.
- I am knowing that my true nature is strong, confident and peaceful.
- I am loved, worthy and valuable no matter how many mistakes I make.
Affirmations of Self Care & Body Image
- I am feeding my body well and tending to my physical needs so I can have the energy and stamina I need to live a vibrant life!
- I am tending to my emotional needs by resting when I am tired, taking time for myself, and filling my mind with truth.
- I am wise about sleeping well so my body, mind and spirit can be rejuvenated and replenished.
- I am mindful to take time to rest and slow down when I need it.
- I am knowing my emotional triggers and how to heal them.
- I give myself permission to spend time, money and attention on myself.
- I am know that my inner peace is valuable and I instinctively know how to nurture it.
Affirmations for Your Mind
- I am a victor and not a victim of my circumstances. I choose what to make of life's events.
- I am mindful to practice gratitude often to have a healthy perspective on my life.
- I am knowing that the only opinion that matters is my own.
- I am knowing that how other mothers choose to run their households has no reflection on the value or merit of how I run mine.
- I am trusting that God is taking care of me and family and providing for our needs.
- It is safe and okay for me to say no to opportunities that do not support the highest good of me or my family.
- I am wise about what I read, watch and listen to and feed my mind with uplifting and empowering messages.
- I am knowing that it is safe for me to ask for what I want and state my needs.
- I am knowing that there is always enough time for what is important to get done.
- I am understanding my own personality and its unique needs and am able to provide them myself.