Essential Oils for Love, Romance and Self Care – Webinar Notes

Essential oils are powerful organic compounds that go far beyond just helping boost the immune system and knocking out the crud, but help with emotional and mental balance, romance, relationships and even in the bedroom. Here are the notes and video from my latest webinar on the subject!

Essential Oils 101 - What Are They and How do they Work?

What are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are steam distilled or pressed from plants – from the leaves, roots, bark, stems, rinds or seeds.

They are much more concentrated, and therefore, more potent than dried herbs. 1 drop of peppermint oil is the same as 26 cups of peppermint tea! 1 drop of lemon oil is the same as 16 lemon rinds!

They are the life blood of the plant that initiates regeneration into the cells. They enhance the immune system of plants, and they work the same for humans. Anything that our blood does for us is what the essential oils do for the plant.

They can effectively combat the damaging effects of toxins, impurities and harmful substances in and around our body.

They are very powerful antioxidants. Antioxidants create an unfriendly environment for free radicals that our bodies are in contact with daily. Free radicals come from sources outside your body, such as tobacco smoke, toxins, or pollutants, and can damage our bodies’ cells, proteins, and DNA by altering their chemical structure.

Essential oils can quickly penetrate the tissues of the skin, and from there diffuse throughout the body in the blood and tissues

One drop of essential oils contains 40 million trillion molecules. Which means that the molecules are very small and they can affect the body at the cellular level by penetrating the cell wall to repair damage and boost the immune system. The  molecular structure of some oils are so small and contain high amounts of sesquiterpenes, which is a chemical constituent in pure essential oils, that they can even cross the blood-brain barrier (Lemon, Cedarwood, Vetiver), making essential oils powerful to deal with issues of the brain.

Essential oils work synergistically WITH the body to help it heal itself because they are recognized by the body as nutrients, unlike synthetic chemicals which the body recognizes as foreign substances.

How to Apply Essential Oils - Aromatically, Topically and Internally

Three Ways to Use Essential Oils


  • Diffuser – my favorite way to use EO’s.
  • Changes mood & emotions, kills airborne germs and odors, purifies the air.
  • Scent affects the limbic part of the brain that controls emotions and memories.
  • Use a diffuser that does not operate with heat, heat destroys the therapeutic properties of the oils.
  • Easy, safe, less is more


Due to their molecular structure, essential oils are rapidly absorbed by the skin. Applying the oils to the Vita-flex points on a foot that relates to organ system will activate their reflex (that foot chart is shown here in the slide. You can see the chart in the guidebook that I give to all of those who sign up as a member underneath me). Applying the oils to your feet is a great way to absorb the oils into your body. With over 2,000 pores in each foot, they have some of the largest pores on your body.

  • Takes just 2-3 sec for oil to reach bloodstream when used topically.
  • Takes 20 min for an oil to reach every cell in the body.
  • 2 ½ – 3 hours to fully metabolize
  • This is a powerful and effective way to use oils!
  • Use vegetable carrier oils, organic is best, like Sweet Almond, Olive, Jojoba, Coconut, Fractionated Coconut, etc. to dilute the oil.
  • Do a skin patch test first to make sure you won't have a reaction, especially when new to oils.



  • If the oil bottle label indicates it can be used as a dietary supplement, then it is safe to take internally.
  • Can add oils to food for flavor (just need a drop or two – lemon, basil, oregano, thyme, etc.)
  • Put a drop of lemon in water, or dilute in coconut oil and add to herbal tea
  • Put in enteric coated gelatin capsules (doesn’t dissolve until it’s in the intestines, safer), Young Living sells these capsules.
  • Not recommended for children.

How to Properly Dilute Essential Oils

How Do I Dilute The Oils?

Okay, now I want to show you how to dilute your oils safely and effectively for topical use, as this is probably the most common question people have when they first start. This is advice I’ve gotten from both Young Living’s guidebooks and aromatherapy experts.

First, let’s talk about carrier oils. The are vegetable oils that are used to dilute the essential oils and “carry” them over your skin. It is an economical way to use your oils and it’s also safer, especially for children and infants. Those include any cold pressed vegetable, nut or seed oil like sweet almond, coconut, fractionated coconut, jojoba, grapeseed, and even olive oil!

When you’re new to oils, I suggest to always start with diluting because your body isn’t used to the oils and it could have a detox effect, which results in a rash, itching, headache or nausea. So, I say, start slow to be safe.

  • For babies to age 5, dilute 1 tablespoon carrier oil to 2-3 drops essential oil.
  • For children ages 5-10, dilute 1 tablespoon carrier oil to 3-6 drops essential oil.
  • For teens and adults, dilute 1 teaspoon carrier oil to 2-6 drops essential oil.

Remember, these are general guidelines. Use your best judgement and the more accustomed you body becomes to natural living and oils, the better it can handle them and use them!

FREQUENCY is also very important when sick or dealing with a chronic issue. Oils metabolize in the body after 2.5-3 hours. So, you can reapply that often when you're sick, or 2-4 times a day.
Basic Essential Oil Usage and Safety Guidelines

Basic Oil Usage and Safety Guidelines

Do not put essential oils in the mucus membranes such as the eyes, or inside the ear drum. If they accidentally get in one of these areas DO NOT USE WATER to get the oil out (as oil and water don't mix), it will make it worse. Instead, use a CARRIER OIL to dilute it and rub it out.

Read the label to determine if dilution is necessary (“hot” oils like Thieves, Peppermint, Cinnamon and Clove will sting the skin, may cause a rash).

All oils should be diluted for children up to age 5.

Store oils in glass containers and in a dark bottle or cabinet. Sunlight and heat will cause them to oxidize and lose potency (but not go bad or rancid). Oils will last several years if cared for properly. Can also store in the fridge.

Pregnant women, epileptics, those with high blood pressure and the elderly should consult with their health practitioner before using.

When sick, frequency is super important. Oil metabolize in the body after 2.5 to 3 hours, so you can reapply that often, or 4-6 times a day.  Remember, apply early and apply often.

Why Choose Young Living Essential Oils?

Why Use Young Living Essential Oils?

So, there are a lot of essential oil brands out there. What makes Young Living so special?

I mentioned at the beginning of the class about my story and how I used to buy the cheapest oils I could find on Amazon, they smelled nice for my homemade cleaning supplies but didn't work to get rid of things like headaches, bug bites, acne or poison ivy. I thought all essential oils must be a quack.

That all changed when I started buying Young Living

Now, essential oils are not regulated by the FDA, so you do have to do your own research to make sure you're buying a truly pure oil. That doesn't mean they aren't safe, they just are regulated because they aren't classified as a drug.

Young Living owns all their own farms and they are located all over the world, near the plants' native environment. Anyone can visit these farms and watch the planting, harvesting and distillation processes, and many folks in the business I know have seen it first-hand!

Young Living Oils are first distillation only. Think of olive oil – there is Extra Virgin, which is the first press of the olive and is the most potent, then there's regular Olive Oil, which is the second press, so less potent. All of Young Living's oils are potent, called the first distillation, or the first press.

The oils are rigorously tested both in-house and by third-party, in fact, only 28% of the batches actually pass lab tests for purity and quality and are then sold, the rest are used as pesticide and herbicide!

All the weed control is done by hand!

They've been in business for over 20 years and are experiencing crazy, record growth. Now is a great time to join and you'll get tons of support from me and my team on how to use your oils or even start your own oil business!

Massage Oils for Romance and Relaxation from Young Living

Massage Oils for Romance and Relaxation

You don’t always have to leave the house and spend a ton to have a romantic, spa experience at home! Start with a luxurious massage oil like Relaxation or Sensation massage oils.

Relaxation is going to have both a relaxing effect with the ylang ylang, lavender, and bergamot; and a stimulating effect with the spearmint, peppermint and coriander.

Sensation has two essential oils – rosewood and jasmine which are very romantic scents. It helps to get women in the mood!

Massage wherever desired and enjoy spending time with one another!

Essential Oil Combinations to Create an Atmosphere of Romance

Romantic Essential Oils Combinations to Diffuse

Creating an atmosphere of relaxation and romance is as easy as diffusing essential oils. You could also use these oils to massage on the body or put in a spray bottle to make a body, hair or sheet spray!

Combinations to try:

  • Ylang Ylang and Bergamot (very romantic, could add Cedarwood or Palo Santo for more depth)
  • Joy and Lemon (happy and uplifting, while also romantic)
  • Stress Away and Peppermint (very relaxing with a bit of stimulation)
  • Release and Ylang Ylang (relaxing and flowery)
  • Joy and Lavender (lifts the mood and relaxes)
  • Sensation (seductive, very romantic)

Sensation Essential Oil Blend for Emotional Balance and Romance

Sensation Essential Oil Blend

Sensation is a wonderfully fragrant, powerfully romantic blend that is extremely uplifting and refreshing. It was formulated to enhance the enjoyment of special moments, if you catch my drift (wink, wink).

It contains coriander, ylang ylang, bergamot, jasmine and geranium so it has a very flowery, romantic scent with a bit of spice from the coriander.

Dilute with your favorite carrier oil (coconut oil makes a very nice personal lubricant!) to create an all-natural, safe and stimulating massage oil or personal lubricant. It would also be wonderful to diffuse.

Suggested application – inner thighs and other personal areas.

Lavender Hand and Body Lotion with Beeswax, Aloe and 5 Essential Oils

Lavender Hand and Body Lotion

Not a DIY person? Help to relax and center the mind, while softening the skin with Young Living’s lavender hand and body lotion. If you are a DIY person, check out my lotion recipe and add these same essential oils to make an incredibly luxurious cream!

Bring life back to your skin with this all-natural lightweight moisturizer infused with skin-loving lavender essential oil. Added nutrients such as wolfberry seed and jojoba oils fortify your skin's natural moisture barrier to maintain long-lasting hydration. It also contains essential oils of myrrh, rosemary, and lemon with extracts of sandalwood, and aloe, vitamin E and beeswax.

DIY Romantic Body Spray, Perfume and Sheets Spray

DIY Body Spray, Perfume and Sheets Spray

Avoid the body and linen sprays and perfumes found in stores that are loaded with toxic chemicals and irritate the respiratory system, and opt to make one yourself with just essential oils, water and a dash of salt! This is a romantic and refreshing blend that will stimulate and relax the mind at the same time.

All you need is:

  • 1 two ounce glass spray bottle (
  • Pinch of salt
  • 10 drops of your favorite romantic essential oils
  • Water


  • Drop the pinch of salt in the bottom of your spray bottle
  • Add the 10 drops of essential oils.
  • Fill the rest with water.
  • Shake well. Shake well before each use.

There are so many oil combinations you can try, but here are the two most romantic blends that Young Living has formulated.

Lady Sclareol™ was designed as an exquisite fragrance. A seductive blend of nature's most aromatic and skin-pampering essential oils, Lady Sclareol creates a beguiling and alluring perfume. It contains Geranium, Coriander, Vetiver, Orange, Clary, Bergamot, Ylang ylang, Royal Hawaiian™ sandalwood, Spanish sage, Jasmine, Idaho blue spruce, Spearmint, and Hinoki. Wow, what a blend!

Again, Sensation is a blend of coriander, ylang ylang, bergamot, jasmine, & geranium.

Essential Oils to Reconnect and Balance Emotions

Oils to Reconnect and Balance Moods

Oils aren’t just for sickness, they can actually help with emotions, moods, and feelings, as all of those things are affected by what we eat and how well we take care of ourselves. Scent affects the limbic part of the brain, which is in charge of emotions and memory.

Harmony™ is an exquisite blend that promotes physical and emotional well-being by bringing harmonic balance to the energy centers of the body. The liberating, balancing, and calming essential oils in this blend open us to new possibilities while contributing to an overall feeling of well-being. It contains Royal Hawaiian sandalwood, Lavender, Ylang ylang, frankincense, orange, angelica, geranium, hyssop, spanish sage, black spruce, coriander, bergamot, lemon, jasmine, roman chamomile, palmarosa oil, and rose.

Peace & Calming® is a gentle, fragrant blend. When diffused, it helps calm tensions and uplift the spirit, promoting relaxation and a deep sense of peace. When massaged on the bottoms of the feet, it can be a wonderful prelude to a peaceful night's rest. Peace & Calming may be especially calming and comforting to young children after an overactive and stressful day. It contains tangerine, orange, ylang ylang, patchouli and blue tansy.

Forgiveness™ contains a synergistic blend of soothing and uplifting essential oils that may enhance the ability to release hurtful memories and move beyond emotional barriers. The process of growth can only proceed when we have the ability to forgive and let go of negative emotions. It contains Melissa,geranium, frankincense, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood,coriander, angelica, lavender, bergamot, lemon, ylang ylang, jasmine, Helichrysum, Roman chamomile, palmarosa oil, and rose. You really save money on this blend – tons of oils in it!

Essential Oils to Support Women's Emotions and Cycles

Oils to Support Women’s Hormones, Emotions and Cycles

Let’s get honest, girls, most of us have a hard time getting in and staying in the mood. Sometimes our minds wander as we check off our to-do lists and think about the huge pile of dirty laundry and dishes. We need extra help to focus, but sometimes it’s much more and is a hormonal issue, where our estrogen and progesterone levels are not well balanced and we have little to no desire at all. Get your hormones in check with these two blends!

Dragon Time™ is a blend of calming and soothing essential oils, including clary sage, which contains natural phytoestrogens – the perfect choice for women's emotions during special times and needs. Its balancing properties make it a perfect choice for supporting normal, healthy emotions during the female monthly cycle. Dragon Time is recommended for young and mature women. It contains Clary sage, fennel, lavender, marjoram, yarrow, and jasmine. It helps to balance estrogen.

Progessence™ Plus serum is a pure, harmonizing serum that is designed specifically for women. Along with wild yam and vitamin E, Progessence Plus is formulated with Frankincense, Bergamot, and Peppermint essential oils for optimal results.

Personal Testimony – I use Progressence Plus during that time of the month every month. It has regulated my periods – (sorry if this is TMI, but…) I have normal flow (was extreme before), no more cramps and my moods are much more balanced. I can’t live without this little bottle, and neither can my husband! It helps to balance progesterone. I have also noticed a nice jump in my romantic desires!

I apply 2 drops to each of my forearms (per the directions) during the whole time of the month.

Essential Oils to Support Men's Hormones, Emotions and Courage

Essential Oils to Support Men's Emotions and Hormones

Even though it's harder to talk about, sometimes even men need a confidence boost when it comes to romance. Here are two oils that have very masculine scents, but are also emotionally strengthening and empowering.

Shutran is an empowering essential oil blend that is specially designed for men to boost feelings of masculinity and confidence. Its inspiring aroma appeals to both men and women, and although used like a cologne, Shutran does not contain any synthetic ingredients. Instead, it is formulated with pure, therapeutic-grade essential oils, including the exclusive-to-Young-Living Idaho Blue Spruce, a refreshing, invigorating essential oil to both body and mind.

It contains lots of manly oils like Idaho blue spruce, Ocotea, Hinoki, Ylang ylang coriander, Davana, cedarwood, lemon, and lavender.

Valor is an empowering combination of therapeutic-grade essential oils that works with both the physical and spiritual aspects of the body to increase feelings of strength, courage, and self-esteem in the face of adversity. Renowned for its strengthening qualities, Valor enhances an individual's internal resources. It has also been found to help energy alignment in the body.

It contains spruce, rosewood, blue tansy and frankincense in a base of coconut oil.

Healthier Peppermint Fudge Recipe - Grain Free with Essential Oils

Healthier Peppermint Fudge Recipe with Essential Oils

YUM! Make your own peppermint fudge to enjoy together on a romantic evening. This recipe is decadent, but also flourless and contains all real ingredients so hopefully everyone can enjoy it.

Take this wonderful recipe from Primally Inspired, and replace the peppermint extract with 3-5 drops of Young Living peppermint essential oil.

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The Premium Starter Kit from Young Living is the Best Bang for Your Buck!

The Premium Starter Kit – the Best Way to Get Started with Oils!

Now, I want to share with you how you can get these oils, because they are not sold down at Whole Foods or your corner Walgreens. The oils sold there are much less potent, and some are even adulterated. But Young Living’s oils are very high quality, therapeutic grade oils.

The way that Young Living has decided to sell them is through individual members sharing with others – they don’t pay for an advertising department and use us instead so we can offer you support. When you buy oils in store or online from just anywhere, you won’t get a team of support helping you learn how to use the oils. And especially when you join my team! We offer monthly Facebook classes, webinars, promotions, giveaways and blog posts so you are always learning!

Okay, you can purchase the oils we just discussed for $163 and that would be the retail price. No sale or discount. But there’s a much cheaper way to get them. I know I’m always looking for a deal, and this is definitely it!

And this is the way I started with Young Living and I highly recommend it. You can actually get this set, plus a home diffuser, PLUS this little starter kit with an extra oil in it, Stress Away, Ningxia Red samples, and little sample sachets you can share or throw in your purse, all for $150! You save over $150 this way. At the same time, you automatically become a wholesale member which means you get 24% off everything!

Now, don’t let the term member scare you. There are no monthly minimums or order requirements. In order to keep your membership after one year, you just need to purchase about $50 worth of products the next year. If you don’t want to, that’s fine! No one is going to hunt you down – there are no penalty or cancellation fees and you could reinstate your membership at any time. AND there are no monthly minimums you have to order or a requirement to sell.

Plus, I will send you a 450-page guidebook that lists every ailment known to humans and the oils it suggests to use with it!

Essential Oils for Wintertime Wellness and Comfort - Webinar Notes

The Essential Rewards Program

Once you’re a member and find you’ve really been able to replace your medicine cabinet and cleaning supplies with essential oils, it really makes sense to join the Essential Rewards program and anyone who does gets a free silver-plated diffuser necklace!

So, what exactly is this program?

Young Living’s monthly program where you order 50 PV per month and earn 10-20% of your order total back in points to use as store credit AND get reduced, flat-rate shipping. Use those points as cash to get free oils!

How to Earn Points Back

When you’re with the company:

  • 1-6 months, you get 10% back in points
  • 7-12 months, you get 15% back in points
  • 13+ months, you get 20% back in points

Design Your Own Program

You can change your order every month, it does not have to be their recommended kits or products. You can change your ship date each month, too! Can’t do it one month? Get a grace month! No contract, no fees, no penalty fees.

Since this spring, I have been able to use more than 400 points, which means I’ve gotten more than $400 of free oils and products! I love the program.

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